Dear Abby: My friend is reselling the expensive birthday gifts I give her son

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Abby, D. (2026, October 27). Dear Abby: My friend is reselling the expensive birthday gifts I give her son. New York Post. https://nypost.com/2026/10/27/lifestyle/dear-abby-my-friend-is-reselling-the-expensive-birthday-gifts-i-give-her-son/

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A reader writes to advice columnist Dear Abby expressing frustration because gifts she gives to a friend's autistic son are being resold online without use. The writer describes giving expensive sensory items like memory foam chairs and toys that end up listed for sale shortly after gift-giving occasions, causing offense and questioning the generosity of her gestures. Abby suggests considering whether Mara might need money but also advises sticking with gift cards if the reader feels less inclined to give physical presents due to this issue.
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A reader of Dear Abby has expressed concern about her friend Mara reselling birthday gifts given to her son, particularly expensive sensory items for his autism, such as a $90 memory foam chair. The concerned reader mentions this has occurred multiple times with gifts still in their original packaging, including pajamas and a $50 plastic climbing dome. Despite the reader's discomfort, her husband dismisses it, suggesting they buy additional gifts to balance things out. Mara had previously asked for specific items directly from the reader, making the resale more troubling.

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📰 Friend Resells Birthday Gifts
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Who wrote this

Dear Abby
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🔮 When it comes time for birthday and Christmas gifts, Mara and I always ask each other what our kids would like for a gift.
🔮 She wouldn’t listen when I asked her not to ring my doorbell for no reason or tease my cats.
🔮 Inform them that if the child ever inhales enough secondhand smoke to test positive for THC, there could be serious legal repercussions (beyond the fact that — as you probably know — cannabis use is still illegal in Indiana).
🔮 Would it be wrong to start declining these invitations and politely explain why?
🔮 I told them immediately that I could not commit to — nor do I want — such a huge responsibility.
🔮 Her husband had left the country so he could renew his visa to come back and work.
🔮 I think they’re afraid that I will start hallucinating again and not have a support system there.
🔮 When I expressed concern, my husband laughed at me and told our son, “Mom is worried what others will think.”
🔮 It’s time to talk with a family law attorney about what your financial picture would look like if you were to divorce.
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Dear Abby Kansas City

Subjects

Mara PERSON · 8× Matt PERSON · 3× ABBY PERSON · 2× Dear Abby ORG · 2× Abigail Van Buren PERSON · 1× Jeanne Phillips PERSON · 1× Kansas City GPE · 1× Pauline Phillips PERSON · 1×

Narrative

It hasn’t happened just once, but multiple times — pajamas with the tags still on, a $50 plastic climbing dome and an expensive race car track that Mara specifically asked me for.
framing: assertive · carried by 1 article(s) · first seen 2026-10-27
🔮 When it comes time for birthday and Christmas gifts, Mara and I always ask each other what our kids would like for a gift.

Claims (28 extracted, 5 hedged)

They have two young children, one of whom is autistic. asserted
one → have → whom
We have five children, so we understand the daily challenges of parenting. asserted
we → have → parenting
I met Mara soon after she and Matt started dating. asserted
she → meet → Mara
When it comes time for birthday and Christmas gifts, Mara and I always ask each other what our kids would like for a gift. asserted
kids → come → gift
Besides the usual toys, books, etc., Mara always asks for expensive sensory items for her autistic son. asserted
Mara → ask → son
I adore her son, but I roll my eyes every time she sends me a link for a $90 memory foam chair. asserted
she → adore → chair
My husband doesn’t see a problem. asserted
husband → see → problem
We just buy more things for their other child so they are treated equally. asserted
they → buy → child
My problem is that within a few months, I see Mara has listed my gift for sale online. asserted
Mara → see → sale
It hasn’t happened just once, but multiple times — pajamas with the tags still on, a $50 plastic climbing dome and an expensive race car track that Mara specifically asked me for. asserted
Mara → happen → me
When I brought it up to my husband, he was a little peeved at first. asserted
he → bring → husband
After it happened again, he brushed it off, saying that maybe Mara had asked multiple people for the same gift and ended up with two of the same thing. asserted
Mara → happen → thing
I could understand if she had used the gifts for a while and then her kids weren’t interested anymore, but the fact that her ad says these items were brand-new and never used seems like a slap in the face. uncertain
items → understand → face
Do I have a right to be upset? asserted
I → have → right
Should I just stick to gift cards from now on? asserted
I → stick → cards
Could Mara be doing this because she needs the money? uncertain
she → do → money
Of course you have a right to be upset about the wasted effort that went into purchasing these gifts. asserted
that → have → gifts
You might feel less peeved if you were to give her gift cards to spend on her children, but there’s no guarantee that’s how they’d be used. uncertain
they → feel → children
At a recent wake service, I hugged the wife of the deceased and told her how sorry I was for her loss. asserted
I → hug → loss
She thanked me for coming, and I responded, “I wouldn’t have missed this.” asserted
I → thank → this
Later, I wondered if that sounded flip, like putting my attendance on the same plane as not missing a concert or sports event. asserted
that → wonder → concert
What might have been a better response to her thanking me? uncertain
her → thank → me
We’re all prone to minor gaffes and other social awkwardness under such circumstances. asserted
We → ’re → circumstances
I’m sure the widow understands you meant no disrespect. asserted
you → ’m → disrespect
In the future, you might phrase that sentiment more like this: “It was important to me to be here for you.” uncertain
It → phrase → you
You can also never go wrong by paying a simple, heartfelt compliment to the deceased. asserted
You → go → deceased
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. asserted
Abby → write → Buren
For nearly four decades, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was founded in 1956 by her mother, Pauline Phillips. asserted
which → pen → mother
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