I help with babysitting.
asserted
I → help → babysitting
Sadly, that’s about the only contact I have with my granddaughter.
asserted
I → ’ → granddaughter
I’m not invited to birthday parties, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc.
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I → invite → parties
I’ve asked to be invited to concerts at the school but she has ignored my requests.
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she → ask → requests
I feel my daughter is downright ignorant, disrespectful and abusive towards me.
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daughter → feel → me
My granddaughter is becoming the same way.
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granddaughter → become → ?
She’s also been diagnosed with ADHD.
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She → diagnose → ADHD
My daughter sent me pictures of my granddaughter’s birthday cake and photos of the birthday party but didn’t invite me or offer me a piece of cake.
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daughter → send → cake
I asked when I could come over to give my granddaughter the gift I bought her, and as soon as I entered the apartment I was met with hostility, abusive and disrespectful behaviour.
uncertain
I → ask → hostility
I left the premises and said I think maybe everyone should cool down.
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everyone → leave → premises
I came back and nothing changed.
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nothing → come → ?
I would touch something or ask a question and she was all over me about boundaries, etc.
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she → touch → boundaries
I can’t win with my daughter; she hates my guts.
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she → win → guts
I don’t feel like a grandmother; I feel used and abused.
asserted
I → feel → grandmother
I think maybe a break might help.
uncertain
break → think → ?
Her dad passed away recently so she has inherited some money, so she doesn’t need me to help with babysitting.
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me → pass → babysitting
She had no contact with her dad for five years before his death.
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She → have → death
I can see that same thing happening with myself if I let it.
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I → see → it
I feel my daughter is slowly pulling away.
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daughter → feel → ?
I’ve read recently kids today are slowly disconnecting from their parents.
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kids → read → parents
No, I don’t think the new norm is for adult children to pull away from their parents.
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children → think → parents
But I know you’re not alone in your type of situation.
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you → know → situation
It was unclear in your letter who was diagnosed with ADHD, but if it’s your granddaughter, then I hope she’s getting the help she needs.
uncertain
she → diagnose → help
Though her diagnosis has no bearing on your relationship with your daughter, other than, as a single mom, she’s probably frustrated and exhausted.
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she → have → mom
If possible, a family counsellor could help you two work through whatever issues are plaguing you.
uncertain
issues → help → you
You feel used and abused, but your daughter also has feelings that are pushing her to hate you, as you’ve pointed out.
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you → feel → you
If not, perhaps you could write her a letter, expressing how much love you have for her and your granddaughter, and how you want nothing more than to be present and helpful in their lives.
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you → write → lives
If your daughter pushes you away, continue to reach out to your granddaughter.
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daughter → push → granddaughter
At seven, she won’t have access to your advancements, but your daughter will see you’re genuine in your desire to be a present grandmother.
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you → have → desire
Why do people let their dogs bark incessantly?
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dogs → let → ?
My neighbour’s dog is outside, barking all day.
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dog → bark → ?
It’s noise pollution.
asserted
It → ’ → ?
Some dogs hate squirrels and chase after them and bark at them; others hate garbage trucks and bark at them; still others are overly protective of their owners and bark at anyone who comes too near.
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who → hate → anyone
Is it annoying to you that your neighbour’s dog barks all day?
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dog → bark → you
I have no doubt.
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I → have → doubt
Life with neighbours has its ups and downs.
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Life → have → ups
You could ask your neighbour to try to stop the dog from barking, especially at times that are interfering with your work or sleep.
uncertain
that → ask → work
It’s worth a kind and gentle ask.
asserted
It → ’ → ?
Reader: “In the second question, the husband didn’t know the details of why his mother and wife didn’t get along.
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mother → know → details
And we don’t know how they’ve been functioning as a family to this point.
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they → know → point
…and 8 more, not listed.
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