About 10 years ago, I went on a date with a woman and we hit it off amazingly.
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we → go → it
We dated for a short four months when she told me she was pregnant.
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she → date → me
I was 30 and she was 26, and together we decided to go for it.
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we → decide → it
We moved in together, had our baby, got married and had another.
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We → move → another
We had a lot of fun together but something always felt missing.
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something → have → fun
Last month, as we were getting into bed, she looked at me and asked if I felt we had made a mistake by getting married so soon into our relationship.
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we → get → relationship
I was honest and told her it felt like the right thing to do in the moment, but that truthfully we barely knew each other.
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we → tell → other
I asked her if she was happy and she said no.
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she → ask → her
And it hit me I’m not happy either.
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I → hit → me
We held each other and cried but agreed something needed to change.
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something → hold → other
Do you think we should just cut and run?
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we → think → ?
Or do you think there’s a different path for us?
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you → think → us
I think you need to discuss your options.
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you → think → options
You did the ‘right thing’ in the moment, you built a family and it worked for a decade.
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it → do → decade
That’s longer than many marriages last, so you should be proud of yourselves.
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you → ’ → yourselves
From my perspective, you have three choices: The first, as you say, is to cut and run.
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you → have → choices
The second option is to remain together unhappily, which isn’t healthy for you, her or the kids.
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which → remain → you
I don’t suggest this is your best choice.
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this → suggest → ?
The other option is to go to counselling.
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option → go → counselling
A marriage counsellor can help you two pinpoint where your disconnect stems from, and how, if possible, to find ways to reconnect.
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disconnect → help → ways
You’re right you barely knew each other when you fully committed and then you were forced to grow together as a couple and as parents from the get-go.
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you → ’re → go
You both need time to look in the mirror and figure out what you want out of life.
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you → need → life
The counselling isn’t the opposite of splitting up; it’s meant to help you figure out what you want, and if there is a possibility of staying together while still growing independently and being happy.
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you → split → what
This last option is the one I would advise you to do.
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I → advise → you
I came home from a weekend away to find a dead bird on my front porch.
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I → come → porch
Thankfully, my boyfriend was helping me unpack the car so I asked him to dispose of it for me.
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I → help → me
I was shocked when he carelessly kicked it off the porch before picking it up with a piece of newspaper lying around and tossed it in the bin.
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he → shock → bin
My heart actually broke and my feelings for him went up in smoke.
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feelings → break → smoke
How could anyone treat a creature so coldly?
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anyone → treat → creature
Out with the trash
A I would be shocked by that behaviour as well.
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I → shock → behaviour
A dead bird is still a bird and deserves kinder treatment.
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bird → deserve → treatment
I’m sure some people would even consider burying a bird and would be horrified at your story.
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people → ’m → story
Before you break up with your boyfriend over this though, I would talk to him about it.
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I → break → it
Ask him why he was so callous in his treatment.
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he → ask → treatment
Ask him if he would do the same for a mouse, cat, squirrel, dog, etc.
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he → ask → mouse
Think before you react.
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you → think → ?
Reader: “The writer stated they didn’t have a problem with bare feet in sandals, as long as they were pedicured.
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they → state → sandals
I’m a 76-year-old woman with gnarly toes and misshapen toenails, inherited from my father.
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I → ’m → father
As people who have hammer toes age, their toes frequently become increasingly misshapen and toe joints fuse into painful and awkward positions.
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joints → have → positions
This has happened to my toes; however, I believe that I’m entitled to wear sandals without socks if I wish.
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I → happen → socks
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The Aporia
