In Sunday’s edition of the New York Times, Marissa Mayer, former president and CEO of Yahoo, told her interviewer something so absurd it’s since gone viral.
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Struggling with the “impossible task” of naming three things that she loves about her own 10 year old daughter, the New York Times reports, Mayer asked the AI assistant she just launched to do that thinking for her.
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It delivered the perfect answer, Mayer said: “It came back and was like, your daughter is empathetic, creative and an animal lover.”
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Everyone is piling onto that absurd anecdote right now, rightfully so.
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What she has to say about gender in tech, however, is more out of touch than that.
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Saying sensational things on the record — especially knowing that the reporter will not be able to resist using such a shocking story as the lede — is a savvy strategy.
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For someone as influential as Mayer, telling the list story is transparently a result of years of media training.
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Mayer is selling her new app, Dazzle, which accesses your camera roll and analyzes your life based on the photos you take.
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It’s disturbing to see her talk about relinquishing basic cognitive skills like “plan a birthday party” to AI.
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But the rest of the story gets into something Mayer has talked about for more than a decade: “the gender card,” as she’s called it.
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“I never play the gender card,” she told Steven Levy in a 2015 interview.
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“The moment you play into that, it’s an issue.
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[...] In technology we live at a rare, fast-moving pace.
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There are probably industries where gender is more of an issue, but our industry is not one where I think that’s relevant.”
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She repeats similar sentiments in Sunday’s NYT interview.
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The height of Mayer’s career coincided with the girlbossification of everything, during the Lean In era, when Notorious RBG and “well behaved women rarely make history” mugs were everywhere.
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She’s been asked about gender in tech one million times, and has mostly dismissed it.
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But a decade after the tech girlboss reigned, her thoughts on this haven’t seemed to evolve much.
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Later in the NYT piece, she brushed off the notion that gender has any bearing on who gets to participate in the tech industry.
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She also brushes off a question about bias baked into AI models, something that’s been studied and proven extensively, and instead names female AI executives like Fei-Fei Li as the reason well-documented bias doesn’t exist.
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She asserts that passion overrides gender, as if just being “passionate” enough erases decades of women’s experiences in the tech workforce.
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“To me, gender fades into the background.
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I talk about passion as a gender neutralizing force,” she told the NYT.
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“If you’re excited about something, gender doesn’t matter.”
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Meanwhile, male figureheads of the AI industry are out here posting slop videos about sperm on main.
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Half of women in tech leave the industry by 35, earn 84 cents to their male counterparts’ dollar, and women founders receive half the amount of funding that male founders do.
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Earlier this month, event organizers canceled one of the biggest gatherings of women and non-binary technologists, the Grace Hopper Celebration.
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“Unlike past events, this year, both individual registrations and sponsorship commitments came in significantly below our expectations and, ultimately, below the level needed to cover critical operating expenses,” the organizers wrote in a statement.
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Bloomberg reported that this comes after years of declining attendance, with around 15,000 people attending in 2025, making it the fewest since 2016.
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In 2023, GHC attendees reported standing in lines for hours to talk to recruiters, being shoved, harassed, and cut in front of by the hundreds of men who’d suddenly flooded the conference.
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“They trampled over attendees, shoved their way into the recruiter’s booth to wave their resumes in front of their faces, verbally assaulted attendees, and physically pushed and shoved attendees in line,” one attendee said.
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After the GHC 2026 cancellation was announced, Kayley Seow, a tech worker who was at the 2023 conference, contacted me to talk about what it meant to her.
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She said she felt “pretty shattered” when she heard the conference wouldn’t happen this year.
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“GHC is such a pillar of the community that you don't expect to fall, or in this case, not run.
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Despite its flaws, it continues to be an important space for people hoping to get into tech and those already in it.
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I'd been recommending it to every undergrad or woman technologist to attend.”
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There are other, similar conferences held around the country, but GHC is hard to recreate, Seow told me.
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“Other organizations exist but they operate virtually, there's events here and there in the Bay, but it's impossible to find something as concentrated as GHC.”
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The people she knows who are most affected are current undergrads who planned to go to GHC to connect with recruiters, find internships, and land graduate jobs, Seow said.
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“They're disappointed, and a little scared, since it's October and we're coming up on the end of internship recruiting season, especially for the international students who were hoping to talk to the bigger companies at GHC that have the resources to take on international students as interns.”
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…and 10 more, not listed.
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