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COMIC: If we fight, is our love doomed? And other honest questions about conflict

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Mahdavian, N. (2026, September 9). COMIC: If we fight, is our love doomed? And other honest questions about conflict. NPR. https://www.npr.org/2026/09/09/nx-s1-5961264/conflict-and-relationships-comic-priya-parker

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Priya Parker, author of "The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict", argues that conflict is necessary for close and authentic relationships. According to Parker, who has 20 years of experience as a conflict resolution facilitator, conflicts can be seen as opportunities for growth and improvement in relationships. She suggests reframing arguments as signals that there's something relevant to discuss. Parker shares advice on navigating common questions about getting into fights with loved ones.

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Priya Parker, 20-year conflict resolution facilitator, claims that conflict can actually help deepen relationships and bring intimacy if approached correctly. According to Parker, who wrote the book "The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict", which was published in September, conflict is not inherently bad, but rather a necessary signal for growth and connection. She suggests reframing heated moments as opportunities for discussion and attention, rather than avoiding them altogether.

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🔮 Conflict could help

2026-09-09 · assertive framing · COMIC: If we fight, is our love doomed? And other honest questions about conflict

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Parker PERSON · 2× Apple Podcasts ORG · 1× CJ Riculan PERSON · 1× Life Kit ORG · 1× Malaka Gharib PERSON · 1× Mommy PERSON · 1× Navied Mahdavian PERSON · 1× New Yorker GPE · 1× Priya Parker PERSON · 1× Spotify ORG · 1×

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framing: assertive · carried by 1 article(s) · first seen 2026-09-09

🔮 Conflict could help

2026-09-09 · NPR

COMIC: If we fight, is our love doomed? And other honest questions about conflict · assertive framing

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COMIC: If we fight, is our love doomed? asserted

love → fight → ?

Conflict could help uncertain

Conflict → help → ?

Should we argue with the people we love? asserted

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For Priya Parker, author of a book published in September, The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict, the answer is yes. asserted

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While many people dread conflict, it's not necessarily a bad thing. asserted

it → dread → conflict

In fact, it's necessary if we want to be in close, authentic relationships, says Parker. asserted

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when you have a moment of misalignment with someone, try thinking of it as a signal. asserted

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"We assume if the heat is rising, this must be bad. asserted

this → assume → ?

But the reframe is that there's something relevant here. asserted

reframe → be → ?

I should pay attention," she says. asserted

she → pay → attention

Parker, who has been a conflict resolution facilitator for 20 years, shares advice about common questions you may have about getting into fights — whether that's with a partner, a family member or a friend. uncertain

that → share → partner

Navied Mahdavian is a New Yorker cartoonist and the author of the graphic memoir This Country: Searching for Home in (Very) Rural America. asserted

Mahdavian → search → America

Here's what to do about it. asserted

Here → do → it

Experts demystify the science of awkwardness — and explain how to reduce the emotional intensity of mortifying flashbacks (like that one time you called your teacher "Mommy"). asserted

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So you've got a baby in your life. asserted

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How do you talk to them, exactly? asserted

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In this comic, experts explain why conversing with your baby is important — and share ways to help them develop their language skills. asserted

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Emergencies can happen at any time — and knowing how to overcome feelings of panic, stress and indecision can be a matter of life or death. asserted

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This digital story was edited by Malaka Gharib. asserted

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We'd love to hear from you. asserted

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