Alison Taylor, aged 48, shares her experience of moving both her parents into her home in Huddersfield, West Yorkshire. She lives with her partner Si, their three children, and her parents who are 79 and 85 years old. After selling their house in London, they purchased a larger property locally where the elderly parents initially resided while Alison and Si built a separate bungalow on their land for the parents to move into this March. Despite challenges such as sharing a bedroom and household responsibilities, Taylor emphasizes the positive aspects of having her parents close by and encourages others to consider similar arrangements for mutual support.
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At 48, Alison Taylor has taken on the responsibility of caring for both her elderly parents, Mum, aged 79, and Dad, aged 85, along with raising her two children in Huddersfield, West Yorkshire. This arrangement began around two years ago when Alison's family moved from a three-bedroom cottage in London to a five-bedroom Victorian house they purchased in the north of England. They later built a bungalow in their back garden for the parents' convenience, allowing them to live separately but close enough to interact daily.
Alison identifies as one of the 1.3 million 'sandwich carers' in the UK who care for both children and elderly relatives. While she acknowledges the challenges, such as conflicts over household chores (including a recent argument about a garlic press), Alison feels fortunate because she genuinely enjoys spending time with her parents and appreciates the family support system this setup provides.
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When I tell people my living situation, I’m often met with a raised-eyebrow ‘rather you than me’ response.
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After all, at 48, I have moved not one elderly parent in with me but two.
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My partner Si, our children, Albert, nine, and twins Maeve and Edie, six, and I have lived with my mum, 79, and my dad, 85, for almost two years now.
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Fifteen months of that was under the same roof, and the past six in a bungalow we built in our back garden in Huddersfield, West Yorkshire.
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They’re close enough that we can wave through the window.
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I’m among the UK’s 1.3 million ‘sandwich carers’, who juggle caring for older relatives and bringing up young children.
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Though we have our ups and downs like any family, I’m lucky that I genuinely love spending time with my parents.
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And that Si has been extraordinarily generous about his in-laws taking over.
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We met 12 years ago in London.
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I’d never thought I’d move home, but my unexpected pregnancy with my twins set my homing instincts – and desire for a family support network – in motion.
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Plus, selling our three-bedroom London cottage meant we could buy a five-bedroom Victorian house up north.
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My partner Si, our children, Albert, nine, and twins Maeve and Edie, six, and I have lived with my mum, 79, and my dad, 85, in a house up north for nearly two years now, writes Alison Taylor
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The benefits outweigh the negatives of living with your elderly parents, the 48-year-old adds
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So in August 2020, we took the plunge.
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They’ve always been active and independent, having worked their whole lives.
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But living closer made me realise they weren’t getting any younger.
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Mum had already been ill, which tested us all.
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Dad did a fantastic job supporting her, as he’s always been in good health, but who knows what the future holds?
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We had the land at the new house, so I thought, why not build them a bungalow in our garden?
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When I broached the subject with Si, he agreed.
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But would my parents sell their home of 30-plus years?
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Would they feel insulted?
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Fortunately, they agreed.
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In January last year they moved into our house, while we awaited planning permission.
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Building began that May, and was completed this March.
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So what’s it really like living with your parents in your 40s?
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When they first moved in, Si and I gave Mum and Dad our bedroom and moved into the attic.
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Let’s just say, our privacy became very porous.
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The one thing everyone asks is whether we still had sex – we did, but not very often.
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Having your folks around sort of kills the mood.
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Meanwhile, Dad’s like a hypervigilant sergeant, while Si and I are happy to leave the washing up at the end of a busy day.
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Alison's father has thanked her for the company their living arrangement has brought
She believes family time is precious and feels fortunate they have the chance to be together
Dad and Si most recently came to blows over a garlic press.
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Dad, as chief washer-upper, resented how difficult it was to clean.
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I suspect it was the straw that broke the camel’s back after months of cleaning up after us.
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I did miss them when they moved into the bungalow.
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Though, as I write this, Dad has let himself into our house, shouting my name.
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He has another job for me; for older people, it seems, working from home doesn’t count.
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It turned out Dad had tried to fix the sprinkler, soaked his trousers, ruined his ‘indoor shoes’ and hurt his shoulder.
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‘I’m failing,’ he said somewhat melodramatically.
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‘My body doesn’t work as it should any more.’
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