Melissa Coburn reflects on her faith through personal experiences, particularly after her husband’s diagnosis with stage four cancer and his subsequent death. She discusses how her belief in the Virgin Mary as a symbol of strength during adversity helped deepen her spiritual understanding rather than diminish it. Despite praying for a miracle that did not occur, Coburn finds solace in the example set by Mary, concluding that trusting God through suffering is essential to faith.
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A Sydney Morning Herald article describes how the author's faith was shaped by receiving a statue of Mary at age five, seeing her as a guide and model through life. When the author's husband was diagnosed with stage four cancer, their faith did not waver but deepened, reflecting Mary’s own suffering and powerlessness under similar circumstances. The article emphasizes that faith does not guarantee getting what one wants; instead, it often grows stronger in the face of adversity.
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I was five years old when I drew a wrapped parcel from a school lucky dip that contained a little statue of Mary.
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that → draw → Mary
She wore a white veil and a blue cloak over a white dress.
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She → wear → dress
She was standing on the head of a snake.
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She → stand → snake
Her hands were spread wide, as if in welcome.
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hands → spread → welcome
Other little girls that day drew out parcels containing hair elastics or clips and I was pleased to have received something so unique, so beautiful.
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I → draw → something
Mary would become my guide through life, the gentle heavenly mother, easy to relate to through the example of my own mother, who was uplifting and creative, completely selfless and endlessly loving.
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who → become → mother
Mary was my second mother, a model of strength and grace, someone to turn to in difficult times.
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Mary → turn → times
When my husband was diagnosed with stage four cancer three years ago, a friend asked me how that revelation affected our faith.
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revelation → diagnose → faith
Perhaps she expected that we would be angry or bitter and rail against the unfairness of this unexpected fork in the road of our very happy life.
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we → expect → life
We found that our faith only deepened through adversity.
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faith → find → adversity
I now felt on a visceral level the suffering of Mary standing in the shadow of the cross in her powerlessness.
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I → feel → powerlessness
I had a sense of progress in faith, of reaching a stage beyond thinking of Christ on the cross, and instead seeing Christ as restored to strength with heart blazing with compassion for humanity.
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Christ → have → humanity
My husband, in his last days, had a clear sense of God as strong, caring and in control.
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husband → have → control
Even so, I prayed for a miracle, for a reprieve.
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I → pray → reprieve
I argued to God that it was in His interest to restore my husband to health because my husband was such a light in the world.
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husband → argue → world
He was kind, he was well loved, and loving.
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he → love → ?
He left people feeling better about themselves.
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He → leave → themselves
When my husband passed despite my prayers, I wondered if God and I might have trust issues.
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God → pass → issues
After all, he had not given me what I desperately wanted.
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I → give → what
Could I trust God?
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I → trust → God
The answer is, I suppose, this: Mary trusted God when she was unmarried and pregnant in unforgiving times.
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she → suppose → times
She trusted God when Simeon foretold that she would suffer as if a sword had pierced her soul.
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sword → trust → soul
And when Christ was on the cross, and Mary stood brokenhearted at its foot, Mary still trusted God.
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Mary → stand → God
If she could trust God despite her unimaginable hardships, what right did I have not to do so?
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I → trust → right
That little statue of Mary still sits on my bedside table.
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Part of its base is missing, broken off in the chaos of life.
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Part → miss → life
A smooth shell, inserted in the place of the missing part, keeps it upright.
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shell → insert → it
It gives me comfort to have it there, a reminder that we have travelled through so much of life together.
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we → give → life
And as for my husband and others we love who have passed, I don’t believe they are ever really gone.
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they → love → husband
They are just a little further ahead of us on a path all of us must one day travel.
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